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Staying Home the First Year

by Summerly Rowlands

A little update as life becomes busier and my posts may become less frequent…

When I became pregnant with Izzy, the thought was to take my 3 month maternity leave and return to work. As the pregnancy went on, Sterling and I had more and more conversations about my work environment – weighing the pros and cons – and ultimately decided that it would be okay if I took off a bit longer. That “bit” turned into Izzy’s first full year of life, and although we didn’t know it at the time, taking a year off would have been necessary regardless due to her hospitalization, her outpatient appointments, her medicines, and just the fact that with everything going on, Sterling and I were not comfortable putting her needs in someone else’s care. Basically God had a plan before we did, isn’t that how it always seems to work out?

Taking a year off of work definitely puts a burden on the finances of the household, but my oh my, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I always told moms after having my first child how much I would recommend to take the “full” 3 month maternity leave. Now – girl, take a year. You will never get that time or those moments back. There are good days and there are bad days, happy hours and frustrating hours, but every minute, every milestone, I was there. I was able to take Izzy to all of her appointments, I was able to feed her how she needed to be fed, I was able to hold her when she wanted held, I was able to watch her grow, I was able to take it all in.

Now I am back to working 9-5 Monday through Friday as a high school counselor, and truthfully I’m not mad to be back, I enjoy what I do, and I love a paycheck 😅, but the only reason I’m not breaking down every day when I drop her off is because she’s in my parent’s care. Without them, I’m not sure what we would do. But I am sure I wouldn’t be back working.

Being a working mom is hard. Being a stay at home mom is hard. Being a mom is hard. We have to choose the mom-path that gives us joy. Although I would have never wished for my daughter to have a diagnosis, I am beyond grateful that I was able to be her fulltime caretaker for her first year of life. She’s thriving and even though I know it’s solely because she’s a strong-willed rockstar, I also like to think that I had something to do with it. 🥰✨💕

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Joey Carbone September 15, 2022 - 7:47 pm

I miss staying with mine when they were small. Congratulations mom and dad and I’m excited to hear what your girl does in this world… kids definitely are going to shape and push this world forward into better, healthier, and a more loving future…🙏💚


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